Same sex divorce? ( or it’s unfair to have to live in Massachusetts )
I doubt anyone could say they didn’t see this coming:
Cassandra Ormiston and Margaret Chambers wed in 2004 soon after Massachusetts legalized same-sex marriages. They filed for divorce last year in their home state of Rhode Island, where the law is silent on whether same-sex marriages are legal.
Now, what these two Rhode Island babes did was skirt the Rhode Island laws by going to Massachusetts to get married. Now, of course, they’re expecting Rhode Island to honor their wishes and make it simple for them to get divorced. That’s not how marriage works. That’s not how the law works. Neither is there for convenience. Since they chose to ignore Rhode Island laws, then they should not expect Rhode Island to acknowledge their wishes for convenience now. Since Massachusetts created this mess, Massachusetts should clean it up. Now, where I do agree with the babes is this part:
“It is an absolutely unfair burden,” Ormiston said outside court after Tuesday’s arguments before the Rhode Island Supreme Court. “It is a burden no one else is asked to bear, and it is something I will not do.”
The reason no one else is asked to bear the burden of living in Massachusetts is because to date, no one else in Rhode Island has gone to Massachusetts just to skirt the Rhode Island laws to get married and then returned to Rhode Island to get divorced. What Ormiston is ignoring here is Rhode Island has no dog in this fight. If she wants to get out of the mess she created, she needs to go where the fight is. According to Rhode Island law, I’m sure, she was never married in the first place. There is nothing for them to do. If she wants to get divorced, she’ll just have to suck it up and deal with the unbearable burden of living in Massachusetts just barely long enough to get divorced.
And, for skirting the laws like they did, I think they both should.
Bigger picture of course is IF Rhode Island were to grant them a divorce, then it would be legally acknowledging the gay marriage. That’s something the state has chosen not to do at this point. Ormiston probably realizes this. I think she has a little more of an agenda than she’s admitting publicly and most likely the Supreme Court is smart enough to see how transparent it is. Either that, or she truly does believe living in Massachusetts, let’s see, where exactly IS Massachusetts in relation to Rhode Island?
I just don’t see how having an address probably no more than 30 minutes away could possibly be more burdensome than being legally married to someone you don’t love for eternity.